All You Need is Love

We all know that half of today's marriages end in divorce, but we tend to believe that our own marriages are safe. Marriages today are incredibly fragile, and unless a couple understands what is making contemporary marriage so vulnerable to dissolution, the marriage is at risk.  Part of the problem is that people refuse to see how social and historical forces have changed the very meaning of marriage, causing serious interpersonal unhappiness. Because of increased longevity, married people live together longer than at any time in history. There's been an erosion of the social and cultural forces that traditionally kept marriages together. Confusion over gender role responsibilities, increased expectations of satisfaction, and intense time pressures on couples to work and be successful all create marital stress.

And yet, most people don't acknowledge the problems in their marriage until it is too late. We tend to believe in the "lies of marriage"—such concepts as soul mates, unconditional love, that children improve a relationship, or that egalitarian marriage offers couples easy solutions. We forget to engage in the constant hard work required to keep our marriages alive.  Join Salma Abugideiri, a professional licensed counselor, as she discusses these and other pressing issues in this recording of Al-Madina's free teleconference event.